Monthly Archives: November 2015

The Wisdom of Dogs

One of the curious places that reflection upon disability brings me is to the complicated ties that bind partners with the strains of autonomy and dependency and how like and unlike they are between parent and infant. All sorts of … Continue reading

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Thanks Giving

One of the greatest blessings of thanksgiving, my favorite holiday, is the opportunity it offers me to express gratitude for how well and with so much joy I have spent the last 36 years since the symptoms of MS first … Continue reading

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“for every problem, there is a solution,”…no

The ideologies of progress, individuality, and health are among those that strongly affect our attitudes toward illness. Modern society’s elimination of a range of social and medical ills lends much credence to the argument for progress. Most modern people assume, … Continue reading

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Impermanence, compassion, and Mr. Holmes

Last night we saw a wonderful movie, Mr. Holmes, with Ian McKellen and Laura Linney. The setting is rural England shortly after World War II. The elderly Holmes has retired from detective work and the burden of celebrity more than … Continue reading

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The Myth of the “Well Spouse”

Nearly twenty years ago, some fifteen years after my diagnosis of MS, Sheila received her Masters in Counseling Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara. Her dissertation was titled In Sickness and in Health: The Impact of Chronic Illness … Continue reading

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The “fantasy” of the Healer

Once diagnosed with chronic illness by a physician, although we expect much more, their work is often done, just as the operating surgeon who literally washes his hands of us, may never see us again after the procedure. We may … Continue reading

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For better or for worse…

There is no question that the day to day struggle to cope with chronic illness can be exhausting. One often despairs that the course of the illness can ever be stilled or any losses of strength or function regained. The … Continue reading

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The Hospital in the Home

For the last few days I’ve had an infection that required ac great deal of physical care and attention from Sheila. It is easy to forget how much of the burden of care falls upon a spouse. In fact, Sheila’s … Continue reading

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Estuarial Consciousness

I write poetry and as a swimming fish in a local small pond, I’ve done quite well with prizes and recognition. I am sometimes asked where the idea for a poem comes from. I answer, ”a seed image,” a sight, … Continue reading

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Chiron and the Scream

“Wounded healer” is a phrase that has been used to characterize the shaman of traditional cultures who undergoes a time and trial of suffering as an initiation into his calling as a healer. The archetypal wounded healer of classical culture … Continue reading

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